Colton Underwood, “The New York Times,” and the Fine Art of Rewarding Bad BehaviorColor me old-fashioned, because not only do I still read the print edition of “The New York Times,” but I look to its arts section as a…Dec 10, 2021Dec 10, 2021
American Sniper: Kyle Rittenhouse and the Cult of the KillIt’s no surprise that the white Trump supporter in my high rise wore his “Let’s Go Brandon” shirt minutes after the Kyle Rittenhouse…Nov 21, 2021Nov 21, 2021
Madonna for Dummies — And, Yes, That Might Be YouIn case you missed your Today in Pop Culture History lesson on Madonna, and because Americans have this crazy way of re-writing history or…Sep 17, 20211Sep 17, 20211
My Second Dog Was Supposed To Be a Godsend. Then She (And Covid) Arrived.No one was more surprised than I was that I got a second pug within a few months after my first one died in October 2019. DJ lived to be…Mar 24, 2021Mar 24, 2021
Ari Gold and Me: How a Friendship Flourished During CancerThe first time I met Ari Gold, in 2013, at a tiny West Village coffee spot he picked out, I didn’t recognize him. Although I’d seen a ton…Mar 5, 20213Mar 5, 20213
I Stopped Grieving for Others Momentarily Because I’d left Someone Out — MyselfIn the middle of writing a piece on being happy as I get older, I had to stop. Because today I’m not. I don’t feel hashtag grateful or…Jan 24, 2021Jan 24, 2021
I Saw Terrorists Attack the Capitol and Felt Calmer Than I Have in YearsAfter a year in which “calm” has turned into a one-word oxymoron, I can’t remember being more relaxed than the day of January 6, on the…Jan 15, 2021Jan 15, 2021
I Wanted Control My Whole Gay Life. My Whole Gay Life Has Fought Me Every Step of the Way.This is a story about (lack of) control. And if you get that reference you’re up to speed. It starts out just the opposite, this feeling…Sep 15, 2020Sep 15, 2020
COVID-19, the End of Gay Bodies, and MeThere are a lot more pressing problems in the world right now than the physical condition of my body. A pandemic out of control, black…Jul 29, 20201Jul 29, 20201
Can You Imagine the World of Mental Illness?Imagine you woke up one morning with a cold, just your everyday, twice a year cold. You’ve had them since you can remember, even as a kid…Dec 3, 20194Dec 3, 20194